5 ways to deal with stress

Stress explained

The main reason so many people fail to deal with unwanted emotions is that they don't understand them. Stress just like any other emotion is experienced when the mind wants to send you a certain message.
Stress usually happens when one task occupies your mind's resources then another task asks to use the same resources. Am sure you know how working to meet a deadline feels like.
While your mind is fully occupied with the task in hand the regular check for the remaining time overloads the already occupied resources causing stress.
Here is another example: If you had a back ache while working on the computer then two different processes will try using the same resources in your mind. The first is the process of worrying about your back pain and the second is the one that allows you to focus on the task in hand.
I could give numerous examples but in all cases the scenario is going to be the same. Stress happens when your same mind's resources are asked to do two things in the same time.
I am sure you noticed how easy it is to send a text message or to drive a car. Now try sending a message while driving a car and you will become a bit stressed.

5 ways to deal with stress

Now that you understand why stress happens its time to know how to deal with it.
  • 1) Don't Lock your resources if there is something else in your mind: Lets suppose you were very worried about a problem you had. In such a case your mind's resources will already be occupied with worrying. Now if you did anything else stress will happen because the same resources will be reused. In such a case you must first get rid of your worries by writing a plan or thinking about that matter until you find out what you are going to do then you can do whatever you want
  • 2) Find a way to deal with your long term problems: Some people think that dealing with a problem is solving it but that's not 100% true. Sometimes all you need to do is to calm your mind down by showing it that you have an action plan. If for example you were worried about getting bad marks in an exam you can feel good by just writing down your studying time table. Even though you didn't study yet your mind will still feel better about it. So many people don't provide any solutions to their long term problems and as a result their minds remain busy thinking about them and so they get stressed easily
  • 3) Stop right away when a new problem happens: Did you get bad news? Did something bad unexpectedly happened? Then you need to stop whatever you were doing and to think about that new matter until you find out how you will deal with it then you can go back to whatever you were doing.
  • 4) Start by the tasks you are worried about the most: Do you have so many tasks to do? Then start by the ones you are worried about the most so that you think of nothing after completing them. Compare this to starting by other tasks and staying worried all day because a complex task lies ahead
  • 5)Don't try to multitask: For example while writing that article i got an important email about some logo designs i was waiting for. Now if i left the article and went to check the logos my mind's resources will still be occupied with the article and so i might get stressed. In other words, finish what's in your hand first before moving on to something else. It's also very useful to have a "to do" list opened all the time. If another task appeared all of a sudden (such as the mail i got) just write it down in the to do list. As soon as you dump something to paper your mind forgets about it


4 reasons people give mixed signals in relationships

4 reasons people give mixed signals in relationships

I like you today, I hate you tomorrow

Why do some people send mixed signals?
Why would someone treat you nicely one day then ignore you the other day?
How many times you believed someone likes you because of his actions only to think of the opposite scenario when he changes his way?
In my previous article Why are some people players i explained how the insecurities some people have force them to seek reassurance by hunting down innocent victims. I
n this article i am not talking about players who give positive signals just to make sure people can still fall for them but i am talking about normal people who send positive signals then withdraw them back.

4 reasons Why people sometimes give mixed signals

Here are the most famous reasons that motivate people to send mixed signals:
  • 1) Hurt Ego: In 90% of the cases people who send positive signals and never get an equivalent response withdraw back these signals by doing negative actions. Because a person's ego hurts him when he becomes overly nice then gets no response he tries to make himself look good by taking actions that show that he never had interest. The stronger the negative actions coming from the person the more its a proof that he was really interested (see How to know if someone likes you)
  • 2) Can't make up the mind : Many people can't control the temptation to flirt when they like someone. If someone is confused between two people then he might flirt with both just because he is truly attracted to both of them
  • 3) Commitment freak: So many people who fear commitment fail to resist the urge to come close to the people they like but as soon as they come close enough they freak out and pull back.Commitment freaks always have an inner conflict because of those two powerful forces that control their desires and that's why they do both positive and negative moves
  • 4)Lost interest: It happens a lot that someone develops an interest in certain person then loses it after sometime. The good news i have for you is that even if someone lost interest you can still attract him again since you already met his unconscious love criteria. (for more information seeLove Psychology)

What should i do when i get mixed signals?

The best thing you can do when you get mixed signals from someone is to keep treating that person positively while making remarks that show him that you believe that he doesn't like you.
When you make a person think that his positive signals never reached you he will send more positive ones and make more mistakes that would reveal his real intentions. Of course you should never say so directly but you just need to take the actions that show that person that you are not even aware of the positive gestures he makes.
Soon that person will try to resend these positive messages and you will get a clear understanding of what's going on.